In my quest of find my life's purpose I have been finding some interesting information that is starting to mesh together. I should however say that I'm not sure that I have or even desire to have one clearly defined life purpose - but something to move towards at this stage would be nice. I found this interesting post on the difficulties that childfree women can have in finding their life purpose in a pro-natal world. The question - what do I want to create and bring forth in my life? reminds me of a conversation I had not that long ago. I know I want more love in my life and some (not many - but at least a couple) of relationships with close connections. So rather than have some kind of ideal picture of what this may look like and my GOAL being to achieve this ideal picture - following Acceptance and Commitment Therapy I can instead VALUE love and connection more.
Values can be defined as:
A chosen direction in which an individual can always move, no matter what milestones are reached.
So by valuing love and connection I can notice when and where I feel love and connection in my life so that I can set myself tasks and direct my life to bring more of this into my life. So for now valuing love and connection seems as close to a life purpose as I need - it may change - knowing me it will undoubtedly change - but that's life.
I came across your blog as I was doing some research for Jamye Waxman, a sex educator and author based out of San Francisco; I am her intern/assistant, and I am helping her research her next book, The Wake Up Call. It sounds like you might be a good fit for being interviewed for this upcoming book.
ReplyDeleteWe're looking to interview childless, single women aged 30-50 who are struggling with dating while wanting to get married and have kids. Would you be interested?
Super sorry for the spammy comment; I couldn't find an email address for you! I looked through your blog!
Thank you so much for your time.
-Tizz
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I personally find that I do not feel I have one defined purpose... but I know what you mean at the same time. Now that I cannot have children, I think "OK, what now?" I mean, I know want to travel a lot, but what about things beyond that? What else would I like to do? What else would I like from my life? How do I want to be remembered. There are a lot of questions to think about... I think a question/challenge we all face.
ReplyDeleteI really like that definition of values :) Thanks for sharing your journey with us.
Thanks Nicole I enjoy following your journey as well.
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